Posted on April 14, 2024 in Divorce

It's often hard for couples to communicate, both during a divorce and after it takes place. The end of the relationship is just too emotionally charged, and their conversations often evolve into arguments or disagreements.

But a divorce will go more smoothly when two people can communicate. Plus, when those people are co-parents who are sharing custody of their children, some level of communication is simply going to be necessary, even long after the divorce has concluded. One thing that can help is to consider the correct communication method.

How urgent is it?

There certainly are urgent situations in which you may need to call the other co-parent or talk to them in person. But these two tactics are the most likely to lead to a dispute, so they should often be avoided unless there's no other choice.

For less urgent conversations that still necessitate a relatively quick response, it may be easier to use text messaging or direct messaging. This puts some distance between the two of you. That distance can help to keep things calm and civil, even when you don't see eye to eye.

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 Posted on April 09, 2024 in Child Custody

Sharing custody after a divorce or separation can be a challenging undertaking. Some people find it very difficult to co-parent without conflict. Others simply struggle to adjust to the limits on their time with their children. Parents who keep the focus on their children may have an easier time adjusting to shared custody arrangements after a Virginia divorce.

Although conflict tends to diminish over time as everyone acclimates to the new arrangements, sometimes new issues arise that affect co-parenting relationships. One parent may desire to move with the children. New romantic relationships, job offers or family connections elsewhere could motivate a move. The goal might be to move across the state or perhaps to leave Virginia entirely.

If the parents do not agree about the relocation, then the matter may go to the family courts. How do Virginia family judges handle contested relocation cases?

The courts can't prevent a move

Contrary to what people sometimes think, family law judges in Virginia cannot prevent a parent from moving simply because they share custody of their children. However, a judge can decline to allow the children to relocate with one parent.

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 Posted on April 04, 2024 in Child Custody

Divorce and separation are emotionally charged events, and child custody is often the most contentious issue in a couple's decision to split. In the state's courts, the well-being of the child is paramount when determining custody and parenting time arrangements.

Suppose you've been wondering if the history of who has been the primary caregiver in your family could play a role in these decisions, if you and your spouse ultimately must call upon a judge to resolve your differences. The answer is yes, but it's a nuanced consideration within a broader framework.

The best interests of the child

State law emphasizes the "best interests of the child" as the cornerstone of custody determinations. This means the court will consider a variety of factors to create a living situation that fosters the child's emotional, physical and psychological well-being. While there's no single deciding element, the historical caretaking role can be a significant factor.

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 Posted on March 22, 2024 in Child Custody

When it comes to child custody decisions, the child's best interests take center stage. A child's age is among the factors considered when determining what's best for them. As such, your child's age will play a significant role in the court's decision if you need to litigate your custody arrangements.

The reasonable preferences of the child can also influence custody cases. However, the court must determine if the child is capable of making such decisions before considering their wishes.

Why age matters in custody proceedings

A child's age may affect custody decisions in various ways. Infants and very young children require frequent and consistent care, often from a primary caregiver. Courts may consider which parent has been the primary caregiver during the child's early years, as this can be crucial for maintaining stability and attachment.

On the other hand, preschoolers thrive on routine and stability. Courts may prioritize a custody arrangement that provides a consistent schedule and familiar environment for children in this age group.

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 Posted on March 06, 2024 in Divorce

The idea of discussing the end of a marriage when you are planning a wedding can sound absurd. However, the importance of this conversation cannot be overlooked. Many marriages do not last.

A prenuptial agreement can help you define the terms of a divorce and separate marital property from personal property should things fail to work. Without one in place, the court would have a difficult time separating personal property from marital property. But when exactly should you sign a prenup?

Here are two circumstances that may make a prenup essential before tying the knot:

1. When you are coming into the marriage with substantial assets

It's not uncommon for either spouse to come into the marriage significantly wealthier than the other party. In this case, it makes sense that you protect your investment.

Likewise, if your soon-to-be spouse is coming into the marriage with significant debt, then you need to sign a prenup. This way, your spouse's personal debt will not be your responsibility in the event of a divorce.

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 Posted on February 23, 2024 in Divorce

There are a lot of changes that come with divorce. Even if you wanted to divorce, you may still experience a range of emotions in the period immediately following the split. This might be especially prevalent during the first year.

Taking the time to think about how you want your new life to go might be beneficial during the year of firsts. These firsts are all the special days you must deal with as a single person. Holidays, for example, might be much different.

Find your support system

One of the most difficult challenges you must adjust to is not having another adult at home to talk about your day with. You and your ex may not have always gotten along, but you might have found it comforting to know that someone was there if you needed to vent or talk after a tough day.

You can combat this by having trusted friends and family members you can call or message at the end of the day or when you need an ear. These should be people who will share your joys and help you process your frustrations.

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 Posted on February 09, 2024 in Divorce

Divorce is a challenging process for all involved, often particularly for children who are caught amid their parents' separation. An essential aspect of safeguarding children's emotional well-being during and after a divorce is to ensure they aren't used as messengers between their parents.

Using children as messengers places an unnecessary burden on them, often causing confusion, anxiety and stress. They may feel caught in the middle by having to choose sides or betray one parent by communicating messages from the other.

Emotional impacts

The emotional well-being of children during and after a divorce is fragile. Using them as messengers can exacerbate feelings of insecurity and abandonment. They may perceive the divorce as their fault or feel they are being used as pawns in parental disputes. This can lead to self-esteem, trust and emotional stability issues, affecting their ability to form healthy relationships in the future.

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 Posted on February 06, 2024 in Divorce

Divorcing couples in Virginia often have a lot of questions about the future. They know they have to share their resources and debts, and they may be uncertain about what that process may involve. Virginia, like most other states, has an equitable distribution statute. If spouses go to court to divide their property, a judge looks over an inventory of marital debts and assets and learns about the couple's circumstances.

The judge then decides how to divide those resources and obligations in a fair or equitable manner. Almost all property and income acquired during the marriage is subject to equitable distribution in the event of a Virginia divorce. Retirement savings are often among the assets that contribute the most to someone's concerns about the future.

They may worry about needing to share their retirement savings and also about whether dividing the account might lead to penalties and taxes. Yet, those who utilize the right documents can reduce the risk of major retirement setbacks during a divorce.

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 Posted on January 26, 2024 in Divorce

In the midst of a heartbreaking divorce, the last thing you want is another battleground. However, for many couples (especially those without children), their beloved pets become unexpected sources of conflict. These furry, feathered or scaled family members hold immense emotional weight, and their fate can feel like the ultimate tug-of-war.

Before the court gets involved and claws (metaphorical or otherwise) come out, learn what you can do about your .

Can you get a pet custody order?

Unfortunately, no. As in most states, Virginia considers pets as personal property in a divorce — not dependents with legal rights like children. That means the court cannot award custody or visitation rights as they do with kids of divorce.

How are pets handled?

Since they are property, a family law judge has the authority to decide which of you gets ownership of the pets. Typically, courts make property decisions based on asset value and spousal contributions, such as helping a spouse achieve business success. But it works a little differently with living property like pets.

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 Posted on January 09, 2024 in Child Custody

When it comes to divorce cases and parental rights, the courts will sometimes identify a primary caregiver. This is the parent who spent the majority of their time caring for the child and helping to raise them on a daily basis. The parent may have been :

• Planning activities
• Teaching basic skills like reading or writing
• Taking the child to sporting events and extracurricular activities
• Buying clothes
• Preparing meals
• Helping with bathing and grooming needs
• Going to conferences with the child's teachers
• Taking the child to doctor's appointments

Essentially, the child may just feel more comfortable around this parent if they were more heavily involved than the other parent. Creating stability and security is important during a divorce, so the courts may consider how involved each parent was in the child's life previously.

Does this still matter?

It is true that courts are moving away from ruling on the grounds of a primary caregiver. It used to be that women were generally considered the primary caregivers and would be preferential when looking at child custody rights. But this can hinder the relationship between the child and their father, so modern courts are giving this less consideration and trying to split things up more evenly between both parents.

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